Strong relationships with colleagues, customers and stakeholders are essential in the modern workplace. They support collaboration, strengthen trust and make it easier to navigate disagreement, pressure and change.
Empathy is often presented as the key to building these connections. It involves recognising and, to some extent, sharing another person’s feelings. While empathy can be powerful, it does not come naturally to everyone. For some people, absorbing the emotions of others can also become mentally and emotionally exhausting.
This does not mean meaningful connection is impossible. Perspective-taking and compassion offer equally valuable ways to understand and support others without needing to experience their emotions personally.
Empathy can help people feel heard and understood, but it also has limitations.
Constantly taking on the emotions of colleagues, clients or employees may lead to:
Some people may also struggle to identify with experiences that differ significantly from their own. Attempting to force empathy can therefore feel artificial or even counterproductive.
A stronger approach is to recognise that healthy workplace relationships can be built in several different ways.
Perspective-taking means making a deliberate effort to understand how another person sees a situation.
Unlike emotional empathy, it does not require you to feel exactly what they feel. Instead, it encourages curiosity, reflection and respectful questioning.
You might ask:
The objective is not to assume you know what someone else is thinking. Each person remains the authority on their own experience.
Perspective-taking is particularly useful during disagreements because it allows you to recognise another viewpoint without necessarily agreeing with it.
Compassion involves caring about another person’s wellbeing and wanting to support them.
You do not need to share someone’s emotions or agree with their perspective to respond compassionately. You simply need to recognise that their experience matters.
Compassion may involve:
This creates stronger relationships because people feel respected, even when views differ.
One of the most important workplace skills is the ability to understand another perspective without abandoning your own.
You might say:
“I understand why you feel frustrated, although I see the situation differently.”
This acknowledges the other person’s experience while maintaining honesty.
Pretending to agree usually weakens trust. Respectful disagreement, handled with curiosity and compassion, is far more valuable.
Compassion should not be confused with forced optimism.
Toxic positivity occurs when difficult emotions are dismissed through phrases such as:
These responses may be well intentioned, but they can make people feel unheard.
A more supportive response might be:
“That sounds difficult. What would be most helpful right now?”
This validates the experience without exaggerating it or attempting to solve it immediately.
Supporting others becomes harder when you are consistently harsh with yourself.
Self-compassion means treating yourself with the same patience, fairness and understanding you would offer a trusted friend.
It may involve:
Self-compassion is not self-indulgence. It helps people remain resilient and better equipped to support those around them.
Perspective-taking and compassion can improve many workplace interactions, including:
Before responding to a challenging situation, pause and ask:
Empathy remains a valuable interpersonal skill, but it is not the only route to meaningful workplace relationships.
Perspective-taking helps us understand experiences that differ from our own. Compassion encourages us to care and act constructively, even when we do not share the same emotions or opinions.
Together, these skills create a more balanced and sustainable approach to human connection.
We do not always need to feel what another person feels. Sometimes, listening carefully, respecting their perspective and showing genuine concern is more than enough.
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